Validating and empathizing
We strive for this empathic understanding of our clients to establish a warm and trusting relationship.
But is it possible that instead of the client welcoming this level of closeness and understanding, he or she might regard the counselor’s ability to “see the whole person” as an intrusion?
” And finally one day he hears some faint tappings which spell out “Yes.” By that one simple response he is released from his loneliness, he has become a human being again.
Rather than jumping in to fix the problem or try to make your child 'shake it off' or 'snap out of it', first try to use empathic phrases to validate your child's feelings, and imagine being in his shoes.have defined cultural empathy as a “learned ability” which is composed of three subordinate processes: cognitive, affective, and communicative.Cognitive process can b e understood as a cultural perspective-taking and cultural self–other differentiation.He offered the following metaphor of the imprisoned client being emotionally liberated by the counselor: One thing I have come to look upon as almost universal is that when a person realizes he has been deeply heard, there is a moistness in his eyes. It is as though he were saying, “Thank God, somebody heard me.Someone knows what it’s like to be me.” In such moments I have had the fantasy of a prisoner in a dungeon, tapping out day after day a Morse code message, “Does anybody hear me?