Tips for dating a successful man
Sure, all people crave a highly functioning and fulfilling relationship.
But in my career as a relationship coach I have consistently seen driven, high-achieving men to be the most love starved. The more time and energy that driven men put into their careers and self-optimization (fitness, education, nutrition, spiritual practice, etc.) the more they tend to delay being in intimate relationships.
This is the big one, because depressing though it may be, your smiling face is the first thing on which people will judge you.
Relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James says: “Look straight into the camera and smile showing your teeth – this says open, friendly, healthy and confidence.” A recent study of the most popular profiles on dating sites showed 88 per cent are making eye contact with the camera in their profile picture.
Since driven men are risk-tolerant in business yet risk-averse in emotional intimacy, they tend to subscribe to the “I’ll just keep getting more and more perfect until one day I’ll just fall into the perfect relationship that’s meant for me.”But this is akin to standing next to a golf ball and taking 400 practice swings before you actually take a shot.
Even if you have nothing in common, you can at least laugh about your poor mini-golf skills together. As a couple, you’ll figure out how to split and cover bills later.
“We live in a soundbite society so the first 30 words of your profile really count,” says Peter.
“Try to avoid clichés in your profile because, let’s face it, everyone wants someone who's loyal and we all like walking on the beach at sunset.
And while this helps them in business negotiations, it doesn’t help them nearly as much in their love lives.
While movie dates are popular, they’re not great for first dates as you’ll both be staring at a screen all night.